In my 20s I’ve found that loyalty does not mean a damn thing to most people. There you have it. That was the absolute best sentence I could come up with for an intro into this topic.
For every beautiful and faithful friend I have, I’ve got at least 3 more “so-sos“. “So-so” in the sense that I feel like I am their friend for their own personal gain.
I know, you’d think that we overcame that kind of shade after college. Really, let’s face it, with all the social networking sites around who’s to say that we aren’t still in that juvenile mentality?
That juvenile mentality entails going out and having a “blast” by taking pictures in played out body con dresses while giving the camera duck face. Oh and it also entails posting self portraits of yourself from time to time (every day or so) and validating your self worth on the “likes” you received.
In short, what I’m witnessing are girls who want to be there when it is convenient or for a damn photo op. That’s the thing about friendship, you don’t get to be there when YOU want to.
I’m starting to realize that could be struggling with finding their place just like I am. It seems to be this, just in a different way. Being young sometimes means wrecking your life to numb the pain. There is absolute truth in that statement. We make terribly dumb decisions in our youth, but the point is to learn from them with time. Please do not continue to walk down that “I’m a local socialite path”. That path leads to a place full of fallacies, loneliness, broken heels and 5 lbs of make-up.
Maybe my concept of friendship and love is too old-fashioned to survive in this generation.
But hey, if I'm old-fashioned then sue me *Frank Sinatra voice*.
When you need help to escape the belly of the beast nicknamed life, you want the best to be there. Hopefully they will be, just don’t take them for granted.