Talk that talk: One on One

I've received a few emails,tweets and messages from readers asking me generally the same questions. After awhile it began to occur to me that while I somewhat share my personal experiences with you all, not much is know. I'm horrible about answering all of these. I get so caught up in my life. So after months and months of inquiries, we, your editor in chiefs decided it was time to conduct interviews to familiarize you all. So please feel free to get acquainted.

Twisted Sister: Tia

Writer, Dancer, Serial Laugher, Pin-up enthusiast, Aspiring Designer, Self proclaimed film historian, Comic Geek

1. How long have you been blogging?

For about 2 years now. It's been...interesting. Blogging is not as easy as people think.When bloggers/authors tell you to keep writing to develop your flow and your voice, it's true. There's a big difference in my writing from 2 years ago and now.

2. What do you usually prefer to write about?

Whatever intrigues me or whatever I feel must be said. I've always felt like I've had a very strong voice so I'm quite vocal about alot of my insights. Our generation is very priveledged but also very ignorant, so anything that counteracts that ignorance intrigues me. Lately my own life lessons have been on the marquee, they never used to. I always tried to look like other fashion/media blogs, but that isn't me. The blogs I love visiting most are written by people who take the time to share and put effort into what they create. I like to empathize with people, it makes me feel. So if I experience something that our generation shies away from, I say it. If I like something visually, I post it, whether it be vintage or new.

3. What/who are your inspirations?

My Mom and Dad of course. They raised me so obviously alot I do stems from them. My Dad actually inspired me to fall in love with comics and classic rock. My mother sparked my old Hollywood obsession. We watched Rosalind Russell's "Auntie Mame" when I was 8 and I became enamored. My parents inspired me to be inspired by others. Anything sparks me it seems: Tim Burton, Disney, The 7th letter crew (graffiti artists), The Addams Family, Elizabeth Taylor, macabre, Marvel, Grace Kelly, Madonna various time periods...literally anything.

4. What do you want people to take away from reading your blog?

I want them to take away the fact that you don't have to be like everyone else and that everyone goes through growing pains. We all go through growing pains, survive them and continue to live. And through living, the lessons we learn and the things we see can be beautiful. You don't have to put on a facade on Facebook/Twitter and showcase only glorious details of your life to seem a certain way. Our generation lives in a fake reality with these sites. You only see what a person allows you to, and that fucks with your brain after awhile. It does that to me. I always feel like I should be out doing the most and looking a certain way, when really I'm doing damn good. On my blog I can be me, I don't have to be 100% positive or funny or happy, I can be ME. Human nature is complex and Facebook doesn't touch that. So in short, I just want my readers to learn something new or identify with my experiences. You know? It helps to know that you're not the only 20 something woman with these interest, thoughts and battles. The 20s are no joke, full of hard knock lessons. Grab a glass of wine or some Jameson and scroll through our blog. It'll give you some hope and possibly some laughs.
More interview goodies inside!

Girl Meets World

When it comes down to it, I have 3 favorite TV shows of all time. 3 shows I could never get tired of, and 3 shows that each have a character that I use as an archetype of a boy I’d fall in love with.

Those three shows are:

“That 70’s Show”

“The Office”

“Boy meets world”

But “Boy meets world” teaches me just as much as it did when I was a kid. I think a lot of people feel the same way, which is why the show remains relevant like other classic shows.

As usual, a lot came to mind while getting my nightly fix of “Boy meets world”.

The truth about the forgiving



   “Men forget but never forgive. Women forgive but never forget.”

A major theme as of now in my life is that of forgiveness. I've seen the women in my life come out whole through hell. The only reason being that they were strong enough to forgive and keep truckin'. Upon viewing this as a child, I viewed forgiveness as some kind of weakness. Why on earth would you forgive someone for something that damn near killed your spirit? But of course as I grew older and found myself head over heels for someone, I soon learned the importance of the F word.

 “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”-Gandhi

Well now here I am, out from under. Through my last few trials love has continually struck me and awakened me. Forgiving is NOT a sign of weakness it is a trait of an emotionally strong individual. When you can see past the flaws and pains that your love has inflicted upon you, you have power. Now with this, let me say that being hurt by someone who emotionally or physically abuses you does not call for a nonchalant reaction to forgive. Abuse is always unacceptable. But there are times when people get hurt in complex yet common ways in a relationship. I have forgiven the person I love I don't know how many times. Have I been forgiven for my mistakes? NO I'm sorry, I thought I was a human? Hearing and seeing my partner drown in the depths of resentment for something that is completely fixable and a non-dealbreaker has been torture.

LOVE requires forgiveness. In fact if forgiveness wasn't a true component of love it wouldn't exist. How would a relationship gain strength from not experiencing lows and hiking uphill to the top?

It wouldn't!

Alas, everyone is not the same and everyone must grow at their own pace.

However, if you struggle with pride/ego/self righteousness please know that you are drinking the poison and killing yourself, not the person who hurt you. Only for so long can you play the victim, only to find that you yourself have turned into the criminal because of your anger and inability to see beyond the negative.

Everyone gets hurt, everyone makes snap/irrational decisions at times and people do make mistakes. But the beauty in life is to find resilience in your love/relationships. To be loved unconditionally and accepted as a beautiful and loyal human is what I want. I have my eyes on the prize and I know I will get it next time around, whether it be from an old or new love. Never been one to throw in the towel, I'd rather continue hiking uphill to the top.

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.”



          “Forgiveness is the oil of relationships”-Josh McDowell



     “The secret of forgiving everything is to understand nothing”

 “He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid of the power to love.” -Martin Luther King

xoxo,

Tia

Love is in the air...Valentine's is near!



Valentine's Day is right around the corner!

Yup! That's right, whether you are ready or not.

For some folks, Vday is a beautiful opportunity to go the extra mile and celebrate love. For others, it is the bane of their existence. Well I'm here to tell all my readers that there are more ways to enjoy Valentines Day when you are single. As odd as it may sound your "love" doesn't have to be an actual love interest.

Kenya (my sister) is my best friend and I would love to treat her for a fun day of adventure. Especially since we both don't have the time to hang out like we used to.

On the other hand, there are also many garments,gifts and activities you can partake in around the bay with your love interest.

SNAPSHOTS: Frank Sinatra & Ava Gardner



Sinatra & Ava were one of the great loves of the century. They both loved each other deeply but could not move past the lows of their relationship. They were too similar. Both had an appetite for nightlife, drink, sex, the arts and many other vices. They both feared being alone and shared explosive tempers. Everything about their relationship was public, from their affair while Sinatra was married, to their marriage, their divorce and their remaining friendship. Ava never re-married after Frank and both have referred to each other as the love of their lives. After Ava's crippling stroke in 1986, Frank covered her medical bills due to her financial debt.

Out of all the glamorous actresses from the golden era of Hollywood, Ava is my favorite.

She was beautiful beyond description but she also was an underrated actress. There was an authentic touch in her acting. As with every famous actress in order to see the true talent you must look beyond their epic beauty. She was also a hellcat. Ava took nothing from anyone. She was a handful, a woman who could definitely hold her own. Her temper has its own legend in Hollywood. She once beat Howard Hughes over the head with a glass ash tray (after her punched her and dislocated her jaw) so badly she thought she killed him. Their relationship was too volatile and Ava declined his marriage proposals. She said: